5 Mistakes We Make When Crushing On Guys
5 Mistakes We Make When Crushing On Guys
Do you do any of these?
Do you do any of these?
1. Pretending a guy is someone he's not
Most girls made the mistake of not getting to know their crushes and daydream that their crush does things they'd never do. Sometimes we'll create an ideal personality and place it on a guy we don't even know just to cope with loneliness. Your best bet is to be friends with a guy before thinking of him romantically. That way, behind your romance there will be a friendship to keep things stable.
2. Telling people or him too early
It's okay to tell your close friends that you trust not to tell. We all know how middle school relationships work- you'll like a guy, he'll find out from the people you've told, ask you out, and the relationship lasts awkwardly for a few weeks. How romantic, right? Yeah, no. No one wants that. Keep your feelings to yourself at first and try to find out how you really feel while confiding in a few close, trustworthy friends. The only good time to tell him is whenever you're comfortable- and you should be the one to tell him, not a friend.
3. Trying to be someone you're not
Okay, here's the obvious one. We've seen all the movies where someone lies and has to go through with it, right? And then they're exposed and it's a mess, right? Yeah. Don't lie about who you are. It's never attractive to anyone, and being yourself is the most attractive thing to do. I know we've all heard it before, be yourself, everyone else is taken, blah, blah, blah; but sometimes cliché things have the most truth.
4. Pushing your crush away
Some girls think it's smart to play hard-to-get, and at first, it seems effective, but it really just confuses everyone. Your crush will probably think you don't like them and actually will stay away (if they're respectful). It's also just rude if you take it too far, and no one really likes mean people.
5. Trying to get in a relationship if you're insecure
If you're insecure, you probably shouldn't try to date anyone. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else effectively. You might think being in a relationship could fix your insecurity, but no matter how many compliments your boyfriend will give you, it's up to you to realize your self-worth. Also, you probably won't be as nervous or feel as awkward around your crush if you know how great you are. If you get rejected, you'll still have your love for yourself!
So, basically...
Love yourself, be nice, and don't rush things! You'll find love eventually.