How to Love a Man who fears Intimacy

The way you can tell if your partner or if the person you like fears intimacy is to ask yourself, "am I blaming myself or left baffled by my partners distant behavior?" Are you certain they love you because you can feel it but they consistently avoid opportunities to be alone? Does the person make excuses that seem legitimate but deep down you know its avoidance? Are they friendly with others whom with intimacy is not an issue and so the others pose no threat? Is their relationship history sketchy? If you find yourself answering "yes" to those questions and want to move forward anyway, here is what to do.

First of all you have to own and admit that this person does not understand emotional connection the way you do.
The closer you get the more they will retreat. You're journey will not be easy but if you are a safe and non judgmental person who will not take the other person's behavior and retreating personally, you can continue.

Give them their space and stop demanding more intimacy.
You will feel frustrated and upset and unloved and they will retreat. People who fear intimacy feel suffocated and are terrified of losing themselves. They usually feel more comfortable talking wth women on dating sites. Unlike you who enjoys losing yourself intimately. You feel that connection is beautiful and they feel its terrifying! Remember you are dealing with ghosts from their past likely a parent who failed to bond with them or one who was overly enmeshed and did not allow the child their space to be emotionally independent. Hence the intimacy phobic adult.

Have a big life of your own with many friends so you are not relying on your partner to meet all of your emotional needs.
Accept them as they are. Acceptance is key! They will feel safe around you because you are not smothering and demanding of their emotional space. Accepting them is what allows them to feel safe to move closer to you. Remember, any attempt to pull them closer will cause them to retreat and withdraw. You are allowed to voice your feelings to them. Do not be afraid and expect from them to accept you as well !

Remind yourself, you are allowed to need more love from a romantic partner and you are allowed to leave the relationship for someone who is capable of giving and receiving love in a healthy and balanced way.
I know love is love and you may want to move forward. Keep the above in mind and you can love a person who fears intimacy. Remember to be reassuring because love is kindness. Good luck!